How to Fix A Mistake

Let's talk about mistakes!

Have you ever made one?

Of course! We have all made them. Sometimes we don't like to admit the number of mistakes we have made but really....the number does not matter!

The important question is:

 What do you do when you have made one? What do you do when you have said or done something that has impacted someone else or a situation in a negative way?

The thing is, is that NOBODY is PERFECT! We have all said or done something to hurt someone at some point in our life.

Sometimes we don't like to admit our mistakes or apologise for them because then we feel

vulnerable

or we feel we may be seen as weak.

What I know is this:

The best way to fix something - is to just fix it.

In order to become better adults, better human being, better friends, better partners, better parents and better teachers and colleagues - we need to OWN OUR MISTAKES and then figure out how to make it better.

This is just as important when dealing with adults as much as dealing with our little humans and we can teach them how to do the same.

Brene Brown, author of 'Daring Greatly', says part of being vulnerable is to:

* Show up and be seen               * Talk about your feelings

* Ask for what we need               * Have the hard conversations

Having the hard conversations says - Yes, I got it wrong. Yes, I made a  mistake. Now, how can I fix it?

Allowing yourself to be vulnerable and own your mistake and say your sorry can be a challenging thing to do with other adults but the power is when we step into that, we get to learn a few things:

1. We learn something about ourselves

2. We learn something about other people and 

3. We learn new strategies to do it better next time.

Imagine the power behind being vulnerable with your kids (at home or at school) and then teaching them how to do the same!

When we allow our kids to truly see us and we teach them how to own their mistakes and be vulnerable too, we empower them with a much higher sense of self and belonging and it allows trust to be built and it allows them to see we are all learning in this beautiful life.

The younger ones may not fully understand completely but the time and consistency will allow them to see it.

Trust is built in the small moments. 

Trust is built in the vulnerable moments.

* Whether you are a parent or a teacher - once you apologise for your mistake, you get the opportunity to learn and grow from it and avoid making the same mistake in the future.

* You can teach your kids to do the same - Kids have conflict between friends at school and outside of school and siblings at home.

1. What was the mistake you made? 

2. How did your words or actions impact someone else/this situation?

3. What were you feeling at that moment that you chose to react/respond that way?

4. What might have been a better/more productive/more impactful/more effective way to handle it?

4. What can we do to fix it/ make it better?

5. What do you think we could do next time to do it better/to avoid the same thing happening again?

Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage.

Brene Brown

Until next week...have a conscious and mindful week!

Clarissa xo